Creative Community Death Care

Reclaiming death and grief as sacred, creative, communal, and deeply human.

Meet Ames

Overview of services

Compassionate and affirming doula support for life’s final transitions.

Everyone deserves to have their end-of-life wishes and identity honored to the furthest extent possible.

My holistic support and services are designed to meet your unique needs; I specialize in offering care for LGBTQ+ individuals and groups, allies, and family members located in Tucson, AZ. Requests for virtual support for folks in other parts of Arizona and beyond is considered on a case-by-case basis.

Care & Planning Packages

Whether you’re just starting to think about end-of-life care or supporting a loved one at the end of their life, I offer personalized and values-based support.

Memorial Archiving

For individuals, families, or chosen kin who want to preserve a loved one’s story, creative work, or community impact through intentional archiving, oral histories, curation, and preservation.

Legacy & Meaning Making

For those wanting to preserve memories and reflect on life through guided projects, such as letter or ethical will writing, memorial or celebration of life planning, and creative legacy projects.

Community Education

Occasional workshops and event offerings, as well as customized workshops, events, and resources designed to support death and grief literacy for any group or audience.

free consultations

All services & offerings start with a consultation.

After we meet in-person or virtually to discuss your wishes and your needs, I will work with you to develop a customized plan with recommended resources and options for support. If, for any reason, we do not work together I will do my best to give you referrals.

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What it’s like to work with me.

When I first met Ames, I had no idea what a death doula did or what kind of support they provided. My mother had recently died by suicide, and I was completely distraught—overwhelmed and unable to think clearly. Ames met me in that moment with a kind of softness and tenderness that took my breath away. The way they spoke to me, the gentle way they guided me through the countless tasks that needed to be handled after my mother’s death—it was extraordinary. Their patience is unmatched, and their calm, grounded presence, coupled with incredible skill, makes them truly remarkable.

Nikki, former client

With sincere empathy and a keen ability to observe and reflect, Ames makes magic; people are drawn to the spaces they create for critical engagement. Ames is a natural leader, an energetic team player, a steadfast ally. If you have the opportunity to work with them, I guarantee the experience will be transformative.

Laura Perdrizet, artist & collaborator

Zine Subscription

Part of my work as a Death Doula includes creating zines, which is short for “magazines,” artist books, and other art about grief, death, and loss.

I offer a monthly zine subscription starting at just $5.

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Latest Updates

Follow me on Instagram @queerly_beloved_doula for upcoming event announcements and zine releases!

Community death care requires continuous learning and one of my favorite ways to explore new ideas, knowledge, and experiences is through zines! A new zine for a new year 🎉 Join me next month for a 12 week journey through Francis Weller's book The Wild Edge of Sorrow. The Holding Place is a slow reading and grief circle held at @homeward.books starting on Sept. 18. I am excited to share my latest zine that's currently available through my Patreon subscription! It's a grief-y perzine with 8 short poems and an invitation for readers. This is one of the key ways I've been taking care of myself, making and writing. I'm excited to announce a new monthly event, coming soon. Please fill out the interest form in my bio to be notified of the date and location! 📢Just launched!📢 A new monthly zine subscription focused on life/death, love/loss, advanced planning, and other end-of-life musings by yours truly. My hope is that these ongoing monthly offerings will help you grow your own little resource library and deepen your knowledge and literacy around death and grief. All zines will be risograph printed and mailed out with other goodies on the 1st and 15th of each month (depending on when you join). Patreon 🖇 in bio! Dear ones! I finally reprinted Exploring Grief as an Animal. This zine sold out very quickly last year and I've been humbled by how many people requested it after that, so here it is. I printed the 2nd edition with gold ink (fancy) and slightly different paper colors from @frenchpaperco. You may purchase these via my Etsy and the link is in my bio. Join me @bcctucson for Envisioning the End We Want, a queer-centered, values-based activity and discussion about all things death and dying. Advance directives, care plans, wills, disposition, etc. all require knowledge about available options, but at the root of EoL planning and decision-making are our values. Come learn about your options and explore how they do or don't align with your personal values in a participatory, community conversation.  💐You are invited to Arrangements: Poetic and public rituals of grief and joy, a free 2 day workshop taking place at the UA Poetry Center on April 22 and May 6. Registration is required and you'll find the link in my bio.. this workshop is such a dream and I'm so honored and excited to co-facilitate.

DIY Publishing & Workshops

In addition to doula services, I offer collaborative publication design consulting, Risograph printing, and binding services for short run print media and a range of creative workshops. Workshop topics include: how-to make a zine, collage techniques, teaching with zines, zines as activism, Risograph printing, stamp-making, and more. Creative workshops can include elements like death education or grief, but do not have to. I’m available for in-person workshops in Tucson, as well as virtual events.

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